What is Domestic Discipline?

Domestic Discipline (DD) is a type of Total Power Exchange (TPE) relationship, in which one partner takes on the role as Head of the Household (HoH) and the other partner takes on a submissive role and is referred to as the “taken in hand” (tih). Typically, DD relationships are modeled after a 1950s style marriage where the husband is the sole provider and protector of his family and home.

While it should go without saying, it is important to note that in order to enter into any TPE, including a DD relationship,both the husband and wife must consent and embrace their roles. Without the consent of both parties, you do not have a DD relationship, rather you have an abusive relationship.

As the name implies, discipline is a key component of a domestic discipline relationship. When people hear the term discipline in relation to any type of TPE they typically equate it with spankings, paddlings, and other forms of physical punishment, while these are commonly used methods of discipline you can still have a successful domestic discipline relationship without ever using them. Any method of discipline you could use with a child can be used to discipline your wife as well.

A subtype of domestic discipline Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD). CDD brings scripture and Christ into the center of the relationship.

While it is not a requirement to have a DD relationship, there is strong scriptural support for them and for male led homes. For example Ephesians 5:22-24 defines the structure of a good Christian home, with the husband the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. I will provide links to additional passages here for those interested.