Occasionally, you will meet people who condemn your lifestyle. The reasons they give you will vary but will ultimately boil down to a handful of reasons. In this article, I will cover the most common reasons and provide ways you can respond to them.
1. “You are Oppressing Your Wife”
One of the most common condemnations of a marriage with a submissive wife is that you are oppressing her. You hear this frequently from people with modern views on gender roles. These groups cannot accept that there are women who prefer to be led and dominated by their husbands and truly believe the only way it ever occurs is by the woman be oppressed.
With this group, your best bet is to just ignore them and walk away. My personal experience has taught me that convincing a mountain to become a stream would Nv e easier than getting through to a person in this group.
If you feel that you can reach them, the best course of action would be a calm and rational discourse where you explain the dynamics of a domestic discipline relationship and why it works for you and your wife. Ideally, your wife should be there with you or explain it herself.
2. “That’s abuse!“
TPE relationships have developed a very negative image in society and are often confused with abusive relationships. This is a result of several key factors, a lack of understanding of what actually happens behind the scenes, how these types of relationships are portrayed in the media, and the impact of feminism on the role of women in society.
In these cases I attempt to educate the person on what a TPE is actually like and what it entails. I explained that these relationships are consensual, built on a foundation of trust and respect, operate within agreed upon boundaries and limits, and with clearly defined roles and expectations.
I will also explain that when you have a dominant-submissive dynamic, that it does not mean one person is less of a human the other, rather, one person has an agreed upon level of authority over the other. I explain that it is similar to how a parent has authority over their child or a boss over their employees. I then point out that neither the child or employee is “beneath” the parent or boss.
I also acknowledge that yes some people pervert a TPE to abuse their partner and that any form of TPE must be entered into willingly and freely and that neither partner can enter it out of fear or coercion.
That is the approach I take.
3. “You’re Doing It Wrong”
For me, this is the most irritating condemnation you can receive. Unlike the other items mentioned in this article, the person is not condemning the type of relationship you have, rather they are telling you that you are doing it wrong.
In these cases, the person in question has decided they are an expert on YOUR marriage and what is best for YOU and YOUR wife. These people interject themselves into you marriage and tell you that because the way you are doing things does not match how they think things should be done that your way is wrong. They will often preface their comments with “you know what you are doing wrong….”
For example, they may be very strict and not give their wife any wiggle room and if she even makes a small mistake they will punish her; however, you may take other things into account and let her off with a warning. At this point a “you’re doing it wrong” person will tell you that you should punish your wife because only their way is right.
In this kind of scenario the best approach, in my opinion, is to roll up a magazine and whack them on the nose and remind them that it is YOUR marriage and not theirs and that you know what works best for you and your wife. (Nose whacking is optional).